By
Nancy Hall, MA, NCC, LPC
In an effort to take
the “manic” out of “Monday,” this weekly post explores techniques, issues,
latest research, and other thoughts on meditation. Nancy facilitates two weekly
meditation groups at The Awakening Center. For more information, contact her at
773.929.6262, extension 17 or nancyhalltac@gmail.com
In recent weeks, I’ve had several clients express embarrassment
over talking about their own feelings and problems when the world around them
seems to be on fire. Suddenly, they feel that their worries are small—even insignificant.
The violence and hatred cast long and heavy shadows over
everything. But this is not new. Throughout history, humans have shown that
they are capable of unspeakable acts. It is an unfortunate reality of our
existence. Yet, we don’t exactly know why. Evil? Psychosis?
What we do know is that people don’t cause suffering unless
they’re suffering themselves. A perfectly content, accepting, and peaceful
person does not decide to murder police officers or tourists.
And acknowledging this suffering does not excuse the
horrific behavior. It does, however, give us a context. Which leads me back to
my clients. Each person who comes into therapy or attends a group has decided
to take responsibility for his or her suffering. So while the fight with a
partner or struggle at work might feel petty, processing those battles helps
calm the discontent that poisons the world around us.
Many find reflecting on the world’s events can help them
realize their own problems are manageable. But we can also be good at using
these crises to dismiss ourselves. “People are suffering in Syria—who cares
about my body image issues?”
Unfortunately, suffering is not a zero-sum game—there is
plenty to go around. But there is also plenty of healing, kindness, and peace
to go around too. While your pain might feel small—it isn’t. And each step
toward healing yourself heals the world.
Enjoy your practice.
Well said!
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